​Whether you are a couple, or an individual seeking support in your relationship, it takes work. Trained in both Gottman Method Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), I will help guide you to increase your closeness and intimacy, deepen emotional connection, compassionately manage conflicts through healthy, effective communication, and create change which explores and enhances your dreams and goals.

Why EFT?

EFT emphasizes an attachment view of love

We need each other. It's how we survive, how we grow, how we thrive. Connection. Intimacy. Characterized by our ability to be emotionally available and responsive to each other, EFT can help show you how to strengthen your relationship by strengthening the attachment between you and your partner.

Why Gottman?

Backed By Research

Psychologists John & Julie Gottman from the University of Washington have spent their professional lives studying the make up of successful relationships. They have spent countless hours observing couples and detailing what does and does not lead to happy and successful relationships. Their work has allowed them to identify key principals needed to enhance love and happiness between couples and prevent them from crashing and burning.   

Why EFT?

Learning a Better Dance

Over the course of a relationship, every couple develops unique patterns and ways of relating to each other. Like dances, there are moves and countermoves. Over time these can become fairly predictable, even rigid. Understanding and restructuring the negative aspects of these dances and creating new, healthier dances is an important way to improve your relationship. 

why gottman?

Loving Couples Act in Loving Ways

There are concrete behaviors and actions we can take that work to bring us together. These include behaviors like turning toward your partner, knowing and being involved in the life of your partner, and regularly demonstrating your fondness, admiration, and appreciation for each other. Likewise, hours of observation in Gottman Love Labs has led to a pretty clear idea of what predicts relationship failure. Recognizing these steps and knowing how to intervene appropriately can give hope to couples who are experiencing difficulty.

Loving Couple

It has been said that we are the knot into which relationships are tied. As well as commitment and a willingness to adapt and change throughout life, healthy relationships require skills in communication and emotional awareness. These skills are key in better understanding each other, building trust and respect and creating environments where ideas, problem solving, affection, and caring can flourish - helping you better connect with your spouse, loved ones, kids, friends, or co-workers.

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Helpful links

Lifeshine Relationship Blog

Gottman Institute Blog

The Five Love Languages

As a Registered Therapeutic Counsellor, a Gottman Method Couples Therapist, and a Canadian Certified Addiction Counsellor, I provide compassionate, confidential, non-judgemental, and insightful counselling services to individuals, couples, and families in Vernon, B.C.

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